Dads Only Retreaux • 7mo ago • 100%

Help

I was laid off earlier this month from my job as an HVAC service tech due to lack of work, a first in the 8 years I've been in the industry. I'm looking for work but the mild winter in California has made my job obsolete until it gets hot and I'm feeling ROUGH. My wife became pregnant with our second child last month, and my hours have been slashed since last October, so money is tight, and our relationship is strained. I'm considering a career change but I have a couple thousand dollars worth of specialized tools and experience that I'm loathe to put aside. I'm feeling hopeless and I just wanted to reach out to other dads to vent and see if there's other ideas out there.

ADHD Retreaux • 9mo ago • 98%

Understanding ADHD

Hey everyone, I saw a community called ADHD Talk, but it's got no users, so I came here instead. I like this community because it provides a lot of funny contexts for the difficulties I come across in understanding my diagnosis, and some honest stories from other ADHD people (victims? Possessors?, Space cadets?) It's also hard because, like some legitimate OCD possessing members that groan at every mild example of specificity, it's hard to filter out the general decrease of attention spans due to technological advances/rapid cuts used in animation from other people trying to understand and live with a diagnosed disorder. Anyways, hoping I can make some new friends here (which despite being very social in person and 33 years old, I haven't figured out how to make friends online somehow?)

I just wanted to find some people to talk to about ADHD, but didn't see anything here. Hoping I can see what other folks on Lemmy are focusing/not focusing on. I'm a 33 year old who was diagnosed 2 years ago, and when I talked to my dad about it, he just said, "well yeah, you've always been a little...*Insert vague hand wave here*" I'm currently taking straterra because the psychiatrist asked me if I wanted to do scheduled or unscheduled, and the scheduled stuff scares me a bit. I often wonder if it's working, because attention is such a subtle thing. I am getting better at remembering things I need to do and mustering the initial momentum to get started on small tasks. I am also becoming painfully aware of how my brain is working differently than other people's but I've been badly masking so long that I don't know how to reconcile the differences. Anyways, I love talking to people face to face (probably to absorb all of their social cues apparently?), so I've never figured out how to connect to people online. As a card carrying millennial, I want to figure out how to fix that.